By B.J. Roche

There are lots of books about aging and many are not worth buying. There are books by guys who are now on their second or third wives (ultimate bummer: college tuition and private nursery school applications at the same time!), spiritual tomes by assorted Oprah-fueled nutjobs, or those perky types who claim the best is yet to come, if you'd just put on a red hat and a caftan.

These books are none of those.

Here are five no-nonsense, non-fiction titles you may find useful as you shift to your fifties. 

Inventing the Rest of Our Lives, by Suzanne Braun Levine
Single best book you can read if you're between the ages of 35 and 60. This book saved my life when I turning 50 because it made me realize I wasn’t crazy.

Okay, I was, but, as Levine points out, this was normal. The forties and fifties are a time of great physical, material and spiritual changes that require conscious, conscientious, readjustment in every area of your life.

Levine, the first editor of Ms. Magazine, takes you through the physical and metaphysical changes that start in your forties, and into what she calls the "F*** You Fifties." (Gotta love that.)

This book is a nice mix of reporting and anecdotes. It answers a lot of questions about aging, but it also has a kick-butt attitude. The chapter segments say it all: Getting to What Matters: Letting Go and Saying No, Finding Out What Works, Recalibrating Your Life, and Moving On to What’s Next: Making Peace and Taking Charge.

Going Grey, by Anne Kreamer
This one is for every woman who’s ever spent half a day and a day's pay making small talk with a hairdresser, listening to loud and really crappy music, with her head slathered in toxic substances and thought, “Jeez,  is haircolor really worth it?”
 
There seems to be more of us asking these days, but the answer is not so simple, as Kreamer points out in her exploration of the decision to stop dying her hair after nearly 30 years. (On a recent trip to New York City I was struck by the number of really bad blonde dye jobs I saw among older women. And it's painful watching fabulously brilliant women newscasters cope with their blonde hair. Ladies, we have to talk. )

Kreamer explores the idea of authenticity in our 21st-century lives and how much of  our own self-image is colored, literally, by others' impressions of us.

In the process of “going gray,” Kreamer makes other changes in her life, and starts  the process of aging gracefully. Okay, plus, she started a new career as a book author.

Strong Women Stay Young, by Miriam Nelson and Sarah Wernick
What? You’re over 40 and you don’t have free weights? Get yourself to a Dick’s! Right now! (Watch for our next article: A Waist is a Terrible Thing to Mind Losing).

But first read this book, which lays out the whys and wherefores of developing a strength training program. You can walk until Oprah turns 60, but strength training makes  a huge difference, by stepping up your metabolism and strengthening muscle, making you a lean machine, and helps with posture, balance and back problems.

Overcoming Underearning, by Barbara Stanny
By now you probably know that women are chronic underearners. You are probably one yourself. Stanny gets at some of the reasons why and offers some steps to change it.

One step: Stop talking trash about yourself. It may make you less threatening in the workplace, but it's not helpful! Memorable New Yorker cartoon--one executive sitting across the desk from another, says "You just self-deprecated yourself out of a job." 

The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield
This is the mother of all self-help books, a compendium of dozens of tips worth coming back to.

This is a good book if you're making a transition--or if transition is being thrust upon you. It  breaks down the steps to making a successful life change.

Caveat: it's sometimes irritating; it turns out that most  success gurus are only successful at....telling other people how to be successful. But it's a quick read and a great pick-me-up. And if you have a soon-to-be college graduate in the house, buy her a copy. I use this book in my career prep class, and students always report that this book helped them a lot.